Evaluating The Idea Of Being Constructive

Hello everyone, it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to my blog! I feel like this whole month has been going quite fast, how are we already over halfway through January?! Today’s post is going to be on a really interesting topic – it’s one that links to positivity but the concept is kind of differing. I recently read a blog post by Writer Ravenclaw in which she spoke about Praise over Criticism – and it got me thinking about the idea of constructive criticism; which then led me further to the whole idea of being generally constructive. So today, I want to look into what it means to be constructive, how it compares to positivity, and more. Let’s jump into it!

  1. WHAT DOES BEING CONSTRUCTIVE ACTUALLY MEAN?
  2. HOW DOES BEING CONSTRUCTIVE COMPARE WITH BEING POSITIVE?
  3. CAN WE UTILISE CONSTRUCTIVENESS TO BENEFIT OUR SOCIETY?

WHAT DOES BEING CONSTRUCTIVE ACTUALLY MEAN?

If things are described as constructive, they are useful and intended to help or improve something.

Cambridge Dictionary

As you can see from one of the official definition, being constructive is used as a means to get better at something – perhaps even eventually excel at something. It’s the idea of getting feedback or improvements, and using them to change.

The word itself, constructive, and it’s connotations are used in many contexts. One of the most widely used ones being constructive criticism: critiques that work to uplift someone rather than put someone down. There’s also constructive journalism (which I’ve spoken about a few times on my blog before) which focuses on solutions rather than solely the negativity around a situation.

Even when you think about construction in everyday life. The whole concept is around building things, which is exactly what being constructive is too. Making yourself better, just like construction does to builders.

HOW DOES BEING CONSTRUCTIVE COMPARE WITH BEING POSITIVE?

So, looking from an external point of view, you may think that being constructive can be pretty much used synonymously with being positive. And, to be honest, they are used interchangeably. Although, when you deeply look into the two, you will come to realise that they can be quite different.

As we know, positivity is about optimism: looking on the bright side and focusing on the good. While this is vital to mental health and our ambitions, there is a limit. I spoke about this in depth in my post Realism vs Optimism – A Comparative Discussion, too much positivity can hurt you sometimes – because that means there’s no actions to take for change, and it can lead to toxic positivity.

While being constructive is literally built on what positivity needs to improve on. It’s about acknowledging the good, like positivity, but focusing on what went wrong and making it better.

In my opinion, I think that focusing on construction is a strand of positivity – the best of both worlds. You’re take pride in your achievements, while simultaneously learning from your failures. This also helps to break down the stigma of failure as well, something a lot of readers of this blog said that they could relate to me on.

CAN WE UTILISE CONSTRUCTIVENESS TO BENEFIT OUR SOCIETY?

We live in a society that is very negative at the moment, through toxicity on social media, high beauty standards, rising adversity; and unfortunately more. But maybe, adding a more constructive approach to our external environments could be the key to making a change.

Think about it, instead of telling someone:

‘You’re perfect at XYZ’ or ‘You shouldn’t bother trying XYZ’

you tell them…

‘If you practice consistently, then you will get better at XYZ’

Can you see the difference? The constructiveness really allows a person to build a skill by giving specific improvements and targets, rather than just saying someone is good or bad.

There’s so many directions this can be taken in, bosses can use this to train their new employees, teachers can use this to help their students (the next generation of new employees.) And people who are on the receiving end of constructive words could pass it on to others, and in an ideal world it could become a cycle of construction. Helping everyone to improve in any aspect of life!


This post was so interesting for me to write and compile, I really hope you guys took something away from it, and enjoyed it! Let me know in the comments what you think about being constructive.

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Why Your Grades Are NOT The Defining Feature Of Your Life

Hello everyone it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats! Today’s post is sort of going to be a follow up to my school goals post – in which I stated I wanted to stop letting my grades define me. A lot of people said they could relate to this, which was so comforting to me! So today, I’ll be sharing the reasons as to why your grades are not the defining feature of your life right now, and hopefully it can act as a reminder to myself too! Let’s jump into it!

School Is Only Temporary

If you think about it, throughout the course of life, you are only in school for around 15 years maximum, because then you’ll move onto university, jobs etc! The average life expectancy is around 73 years. That’s only around 20% of an average life in school. Therefore, your grades will feel like the most important thing in your life right now (and don’t get me wrong, they are still worth working for).

But in the bigger picture, your grades will only account for a small portion of your future. I’m sure you will go on to do even bigger and better things after you leave school. So, don’t feel like they are the defining feature of your life because that can stress you out when your tests and exams are only temporary in your life. don’t go to plan

They’re Only Determined From One Performance

I’m not sure about globally, but most schools where I live determine your grades based on a final exam rather than class performance (that’s how GCSEs and A-Levels work). This may work in a lot of people’s favours. But can sometimes go against them. As it means that even if you vigorously prepare, you don’t know what external factors could come into play on the day. Besides from the exam preparation, you have no control over what’s being asked, how long it will take to get there etc. These are all things that could alter your final grade, all because it’s determined from one exam on one day.

The point being, that your school life will still go on even if things don’t go to plan on exam day. Of course, make sure you succeed on the factors you can control, but besides that, you need to realise that there are other factors that aren’t taken into account when deciding your grades. Therefore, your grades are not a 100% accurate reflection of your performance – so please don’t let that define you if you don’t get the results you wanted.

You Have So Many More Aspects To Your Education

I know that when we think of the word education, one of the first things that comes to mind is grades. Nowadays, there’s growing pressure through social media and other factors to have the perfect grades and essentially romanticise your school life. Don’t get me wrong, grades are important. But we’re forgetting about other important educational aspects such as extracurricular activities and volunteering which play just as large a role in your future as your grades.

In 10 to 15 years, I’m sure a lot of employers will be focusing on your extracurricular activities and work experience that’s listened on your CV much more than your grades – as they show the hands on work you can do. Yes, work hard to make sure your grades show as much of your potential as possible, but please don’t overwork yourself because you also have other parts making up your education too.


Writing this post really acted as a great reminder for me as I have been going through my first week of school. I hope it can act as a reminder for anybody who feels like this too, remember your worth and know it’s much more than your grades! Thank you so much for reading, let me know any other advice you have in the comments.

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How I’m Trying To Become A Positive Realist

Hello everyone, it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back to my blog! I’m hoping you’re all having lovely days so far. Today’s post is going to be a follow up from one of my previous posts. I recently wrote a comparative discussion on Optimism & Realism reaching the overall conclusion that Positive Realism is what I want to implement into my life. So today, I’ll be sharing how I’m planning to do this. Let’s jump into it!

What Is A Positive Realist?

‘The attitude of positive realism combines both the visionary view,  as well as a realistic mode of thinking.’

Lifehack

In simpler terms, positive realism is essentially having a mindset that consists of a balance of optimism (positive thinking) and realism (realistic thinking).

Read My Blog Post on Optimism & Realism

Now I’ll be speaking about what steps I’m taking to make positive realism part of my own method of thinking!

1 – Reframing Dreams Into Reality

The key aspect of positive realism is that it’s the balance of two mindsets (as stated above) so it’s important to still have both of them. But instead of them contradicting eachother, they’re working in tandem in your mindset.

So, what I’m trying to do is continuing dreaming big – just as I normally would as an optimist. But, I’m trying to place those dreams in real world scenarios to imagine how they’d play out – just as a realist would. (And if you’re more of a realist, then do these steps just in the opposite order) Then, I’d be able to see how I can achieve those dreams all while being realistic. Usually for me, this is by setting realistic targets!

2 – Being Aware Of The Facts While Thinking About Your Desires

This sort of links into the last one, and is a bit more beneficial if you were someone who was solely an optimist prior. After setting your dreams as well as the realistic targets to achieve them, it still might be beneficial to do a bit more research to know what you’re getting into. So, it wouldn’t be harmful to do a little bit of research, maybe to see the odds of achieving the dream, or the methods people used to get there!
And whatever facts you may find, (positive or negative) you can use them to your advantage and know more information about the dream you’re chasing!

3 – Being Content With Changes

Changes in the road can hinder both an optimist and a realist. So, positive realism gives a good perspective on how both can get back from them!

As someone with a predominantly optimist mindset, I know firsthand that I expect things to go 100% smoothly. But, this isn’t always the case – and being a positive realist means you acknowledge this, and now just focus on the new targets to get back on track!
A realist may probably be someone who has prepared for setbacks – which is great! But this could hinder the scale of what they want to achieve, and may not think they can fulfil their full potential. So, while a realist is already going to be content and prepared for the changes, it mustn’t stop them from dreaming what they truly want to achieve because they know they can use realistic goals to get back on track from the expected setbacks!


Thank you so much for reading this post, I hope it was helpful! Let me know in the comments what you know about positive realism and whether you try to practice it in your life.

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Debunking 5 Myths About Positivity

Hey everyone, it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to my blog! When deciding what today’s blog post would be, I wasn’t too sure. So I decided to go back to what my blog is based on: Positivity. Being positive is something I always try to achieve, but I definitely don’t always get there and I used to (and still do) believe some myths about positivity which aren’t exactly true. So today, I’m sharing some myths about positivity while sharing my thoughts on them and debunking them!

Positivity is a Mood

When people think of positivity as a mood, they’re probably thinking, ‘I feel so positive right now!’ In actual fact, positivity isn’t a mood – it’s a mindset. Positivity is defined as:

The practice or tendency to be positive or optimistic in life.”

Berkeley Wellbeing

So, we should not assume that positivity is how you’re feeling, it’s a state of mind and how you react to different situations.

Being Positive Means You’re Constantly Happy

As stated earlier, positivity is a mindset – not a mood. Yes, most people who are positive are more happy, but being constantly happy while being positive is simply not true. The mindset of positivity is trying to find something a little brighter in a dark situation! But, that does not mean you’re going to be happy in terrible situation if you have a positive mindset. It just means that you’re going to try and find a solution or try and be optimistic – but this still won’t guarantee 100% happiness.

Positivity Is Something You Can Only Have To Yourself

Although positivity is a state of mind in an individual, that doesn’t mean it should be kept individually. It’s not a mood that you can rub off on other people, but it is something that you can share a little piece of with others if you have that mindset. All it takes is just being there for someone who doesn’t feel positive and just embracing it can help others feel positive and have a little bit of that mindset too!

Having Positivity Means Ignoring Negative Feelings

This is actually completely the opposite of the aim of positivity. Positivity aims to be optimistic, but repressing negative feelings and just thinking you’re 100% happy can actually be even more damaging and they will build up inside you and burst sooner or later. This is called toxic positivity, and it is not the aim of trying to have a positive mindset! Read More About My Thoughts On Toxic Positivity.

Positivity Can’t Be Promoted

This kind of links back to my point about individuality, but positivity definitely can and should be promoted. Even if it’s as simple of suggesting a positive solution to someone’s problem, it’s still promoting the mindset of positivity and could be really beneficial to someone!


Alright guys, those were 5 myths about positivity that I’ve heard and wanted to debunk, but I’m sure there are still some more, so comment down below some myths you’ve heard of about positivity or you can share your thoughts on that ones I’ve shared!

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3 Spring Self Care Ideas

Hey everyone, it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to my blog! For today’s post, I thought it would be fitting to share some Spring-related self care tips as we’re in the month of April now. Feel free to do as many of these as you want if you need a bit of rest or feel a bit down.

Remember though, if you are feeling down make sure you understand your emotions and validate them before – I do not want this to be promoting toxic positivity (to learn more about Toxic Positivity, you can read my recent post on it!)
For now, let’s jump into it!

Keep Your Favourite Plants In Your Room

I only learned this recently, but keeping a part of nature in your room really keeps you and your atmosphere calm. So, go online and order some houseplants for a tranquil atmosphere. It also means you have more scenery in your room, as well as a little distraction for stressful situations such as revision – I’m definitely going to try this!

Go Fruit Picking With Friends/Family

Fruit Picking is a great way to make time for yourself alone or spending time with others. You could find your nearest fruit farm and go pick out some fruit for yourself or for your friends/family. I personally haven’t done this yet but I know many people who have any they really enjoyed this.

An alternative to this is if you have any fruits in your garden or a friends garden you could pick them aswell, this way they’re definitely locally sourced and it’s done in a more familiar environment!

Start Putting Together A Scrapbook

This is an idea I’m planning to start very soon. Most people have time off from school or work and you’ll be making a lot of memories with friends and family. If you’re able to capture these memories, why not make it into a scrapbook? This way you’ll be able to get artsy/creative as well as look back at some positive moments!


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3 Small Acts You Can Do To Increase Your Positivity

Hi guys, welcome or welcome back to the blog! I feel like it’s been a while since I did a simple positivity post. And I feel like I need to write this right now, and I you guys can benefit from reading it. Today, I’ll be sharing a few small acts you can do to increase your positivity!

Smile More

I know this is really cheesy, but smiling more actually does increase your positivity. Vex King said in his book Good Vibes Good Life that smiling releases endorphins which are happy hormones. So, even if you’re smiling in a bad situation – your mood really will be boosted. That’s why fake it till you make it, actually applies to this situation!

Hug Someone

Hugging someone else is the best feeling, because you’re both feeding off of the others emotions. It creates a warmth of positivity and really does help in tough situations. I challenge you to go hug someone right now!

Create A Positivity Board

This is actually one of my plans for this year. A positivity board is very similar to a vision board, except it quotes and pictures about positivity and fills you with positive vibes. I honestly can’t wait to make mine and am excited to share it with you all. If you can’t make a physical one, Pinterest is a great way to make a digital alternative!


Thank you all so much for reading this blog post, I know it was quite short but I wanted to keep it simple. Let me know how you stay positive in the comments!

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Positive Habits To Start Your Year Off Well

Hi everyone, welcome or welcome back! So, for today’s post, I thought it would be fun to share some habits that can help kick off your new year with a postive start. Let’s jump into it!

Set Your Goals For The Year

I think most people have already done this, but it’s never too late to set your goals. That way you have something to work towards throughout the year – but remember only if you want to, I know some people don’t tend to set goals!

If you want some ideas for goals, you can read my 2022 Goals Post

Set Up A New Planner or Organisation Technique

Some people have a set way of organising their life, but if you don’t (or want to switch it up) the new year is a great time to figure out new methods of productivity. You could use to do lists, bullet journals, whiteboards or other options!

Declutter Your Room (pooja from lifesfinewhine)

Decluttering is such a great idea – start the year off with a clean room to reflect a fresh start for you. We all have unnecessary clutter that we have just been meaning to get rid of, now is the time to do it. A clean room will make ou more inclined to start the year off the right way!

This idea is actually inspired by Pooja’s post on Lifesfinewhine about Decluttering Your Life


Thanks so much for reading, let me know in the comments how you reset for the new year!

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How Art Can Increase Your Positivity

Hello everyone it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to the blog! For today’s post, I’m going to be doing a positivity post – which for some reason I feel like I haven’t written in a while! This post will be discussing how art can help increase positivity and wellbeing. Let’s jump into it!

It Can Relive Stress

Whether it’s scribbles or splattering paint, creating art relives stress as you’re putting all your emotions onto paper and they aren’t inside you anymore! If you don’t believe me, there’s an article linked here saying that during 45 minutes of art, 75% of participants cortisol (stress hormones) levels lowered!

It Gives You Something To Channel Your Energy Into

A lot of people feel unmotivated because they might not feel good at something or not have something to do. Well, whether you’re good at art or not, it can become your hobby and it really allows you to be able to do something fun and to help your motivation too!

It Adds More Creativity To Your Surroundings

We all need to spice up our room decor every now and again – art is the perfect opportunity to fulfil that desire! The best part is, it doesn’t even matter how your art looks because it’s such a unique thing for everyone.


Thank you so much for reading this post – I tried to keep it simple so it would be easier to read and you can spend more time actually doing the art! I personally also lov9e looking at Art too – and there are so many creators these days, I’m linking my favourite underrated artist on Tiktok (@artby_zahra) whose a self taught artist with original content which you should definitely check out (this post is actually a collaboration with her!) Let me know in the comments your favourite artists!

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Talking About My Positivity – Updates, Advice and More!

Hello everyone it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats! For today’s blog post, I thought I’d do something slightly different – I wanted to share an update on my positivity and share my experiences lately. I also want you all to share how you’ve been in the comments!

My Experiences Lately:
I’m someone who obviously loves positivity, but you can’t always be positive, including myself! Recently, I’ve been doing through something in my personal life – which I won’t get into – but it’s been hard to stay positive the whole time and writing posts like this really helps!

As said in a previous post, I recently had End Of Year Exams, which are over now. Not having exams anymore has definitely taken a weight off my shoulders – I’ve started getting some results and thankfully I’ve been happy with them, so that’s some positivity which has been brought to me!

So overall, my experiences lately have been mixed but the one thing that has definitely helped lately is writing blog posts for you all!

Things That Have Helped Me:
When I was getting ready for End Of Year Exams, my family was definitely a big help, my dad took me on a bike ride and that was definitely beneficial for my positivity!

Also, when I was going through things in my personal life, reading definitely helped! I tend to read thrillers because they take me into another mystery and were so interesting to read. Honestly, I haven’t been reading that much lately but I hope I to read more soon!

Another things that helped me were comfort shows (mainly sitcoms) which really helped me to boost my mood! Some shows I watched were:

  • Full House and Fuller House
  • Friends
  • How I Met Your Mother
  • The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air
  • Modern Family

A Habit I’d Like To Start:
Although writing blog posts about my experiences are super helpful for my wellbeing, sometimes there are things I have to keep personal so I’m keen to start writing a diary again. When I did, it was so calming, especially when I had deep emotions buried inside, I would definitely recommend you all try it!


Thank you so much for reading this blog post, I know it was slightly different but let me know if you’d like me to do a similar one again. I urge you all to share your experiences with positivity lately in the comments!

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3 Tips To Stay More Positive In Lockdown

Hey everyone, hope you’re all doing okay! Seeing as we will soon be coming to the end of May (Mental Health Awareness Month) I thought I would share with you 3 tips for being more positive in Lockdown!

  1. Don’t always watch the news! A lot easier said then done! I know a lot of us want to be updated on what’s happening, and that’s a totally a good thing! However, don’t watch it too much it one day! You don’t want to get scared and overwhelmed. Therefore, instead reading articles would be much easier as they focus on the relevant things!
  2. Focus on what you’re grateful for! In these times, negativity is all around us and it’s definitely not helping people mentally! Therefore, instead of focusing on what you could be doing, focus on what you have now! For example, you have your family!
  3. Learn a new skill Learning a new skill will give you something to focus and have fun on! For example, maybe learn how to sew! Any new skill will help you relieve stress, become positive when you do it right, and you’re kept busy!

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