What Does Positivity Mean To Me?

Hello everyone it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to my blog! As I head into a stressful year of school and have a lot going on, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about thinking about positivity and keeping positive during this time. I realised that positivity can mean a lot for so many different people, so today I just wanted to share my perspective on what positivity means to me. Let’s jump into it!

What Do I Think Positivity Means?

This blog is a positivity-centric blog so I’ve written countless posts on the definition and how positivity can affect other people, but I’ve never really shared my true perspective. To me, positivity is about keeping hope alive, and that’s the key message I draw from it.
I think this allows for positivity to be a saviour during the bad times. I don’t necessarily think positivity will always give you an automatic solution – but I think that it’s a really great tool that just helps you to lift your mood, even in the bad times.
I’m not saying it’s about being 100% optimistic, because it’s not. It actually helps with positive realism. It’s not a solution but it can definitely be a stepping stone to finding solutions that can realistically help a problem.

How Do I Use Positivity In My Daily Life?

Honestly, I think this blog in particular has made positivity such a normal thing in my life – but I still think I have a long way to go.

I think one way it really helps me is that it allows me to keep my mind on the present. Me and my friends tend to look ahead sometimes, especially to out public exams (which are in 7 months time!) and we speculate on negative things that could happen if we don’t do well now.
Well, positivity has allowed me to say, ‘Let’s just keep positive and not think about it.’ And it actually really helps with calming myself down and not getting too stressed.

Another thing positivity has allowed to happen is stopping negative self talk. I think once in a while, everyone says some negative things about themselves like they’re ‘So bad at something’ or they’ll ‘Never be good’ at a skill. Actually, I used to do this quite a bit! But coming in with the perspective of positivity, and my parent’s persistence, I’ve been able to change these phrases into ‘I can improve’ or even ‘Maybe this isn’t for me!’ Slightly changing your language can have a whole different impact and effect on your own self esteem – and I really wouldn’t be doing this without positivity!

How Do I Want To Implement More Positivity Into My Life?

Something I’d really like to do in order to implement more positivity into my life is to do this in a realistic way. For example, when writing my weekly goals I could include some affirmations in my planner or I could just write small note to my future self letting myself know that I can do this.
I think it’s important to add positivity into your realistic goals as it really allows for more desire and passion to achieving them and gives you more confidence in getting them done!


Thank you so much for reading this post, I hoped you liked my perspective! My next post will sort of be a follow up post – but this time with getting you all involved so stay tuned for that!

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My Thoughts on Toxic Positivity

Hello everyone, Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to my blog! For today’s post, I wanted to speak a little bit about toxic positivity considering my blog is based around positivity. I wanted to share my thoughts on it, why it’s not healthy and how you can embrace positivity in a non toxic way – let’s jump into it!

What Exactly Is Toxic Positivity?

For anyone that does not know what toxic positivity is, toxic positivity is essentially suppressing any negative emotions you have and deliberately try to block them from your life.

‘Toxic positivity involves dismissing negative emotions and responding to distress with false reassurances rather than empathy.’

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Why Is It Unhealthy?

Although toxic positivity can seem like a good idea at a time of upset, it can actually make you feel worse sometimes – I can tell you this from experience. When you’re feeling down, if you don’t allow yourself to acknowledge these emotions, it’s making you believe you shouldn’t have them.

In actual fact, not believing these emotions are valid and deciding to just bury them deep inside you and trying to compensate for false positivity can make you feel worse. Your feeling will just build up inside of you!

How Can Toxic Positivity Be Stopped?

Realising that your emotions are valid is a great way to combat toxic positivity. Don’t think that just because the emotions are negative they’re not as important. Make sure you validate these emotions and understand they’re apart of you, and do what you need to do accordingly!

Talking to anyone who has gone through similar emotional patches to you is super helpful, they’ll be able to understand your emotions and will help you feel heard!

A Message From Me

Since this is a different sort of positivity post I wanted to have a little heart to heart from me. I’m basically just reiterating everything in this post directly to you! Whatever your’e feeling please validate your emotions – yes, my blog does talk about ways to embrace positivity, but please know these are not substitutes for understanding your emotions. I do know I don’t talk about this enough so know I’ll be putting this message on future positivity posts! If you’d like to learn more, I’d recommend this article by UW Medicine that really helped me with my research!


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How You Can Balance Blogging With Your Life

Hey everyone it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back! So, a lot of us bloggers can sometimes find it very challenging to balance blogging with our personal lives – school, work etc. As I’ve been blogging for almost two years now, I have an idea of how to maintain a balance, so I’ll be sharing these tips today!

Choose A Suitable Amount Of Posts For One Week

On every blog, a certain amount of posts go out each week. Some do one a week, some do a post every day. But, if you have a very busy personal life, then you’re better off choosing one post a week or maybe two a week, just so you don’t feel the pressure of writing too many posts and neglecting school, plans with others etc! Also, be sure to pick what day of the week and the time they go out.

Pick One Day To Bulk Write The Week’s Posts

Once you’ve decided how many posts to write and when they go out, you need to write them. Of course, you could just write them on the day they go out – but that goes back to a balance again. You don’t want to be stressing about your posts, because you still have a private life outside of blogging. I’d recommend choosing one day a week to bulk write that week’s posts (if you’ve read my other blogging advice posts, you’ll know I always include this tip.) For me, it’s every Sunday because I never do anything on a Sunday!

Use The Scheduling Feature

This tip is key to balance your personal life. Once you’ve written the week’s posts, you can schedule them to go out on the chosen date/ time! I love this feature because then I don’t necessarily have to be on WP or my blog for the post to be published, if I’m busy doing something else.

If you don’t know how to schedule posts on a laptop, on the right hand side click on post, and under status and visibility click on the publish date and choose from there!

On the app, click on the three dots in the top right hand corner, choose post settings, and then schedule for, and then pick the date and time!


I hope these steps have been useful to allow you to still enjoy the blogging process, while not being stressed with it interfering with your personal life – because blogging should be fun! Let me know in the comments your tips to balance blogging, I’d love to hear them.

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Reflecting On 2021

Hey everyone, it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back! So, I’m back from my mini holiday break, I had a lovely week with my family, so I just wanted to wish you all Happy Holidays, although slightly late! So, for today’s post, I’m going to reflecting on 2021. You may recall that at the start of 2021, I did a post called Goals For 2021 so I’ll be reflecting on those goals and whether I achieved my resolutions!

1st 2021 Goal – Not Being Hard On Myself

This was my main goal for this year, and I’m happy to say I did achieve this. I’ve definitely started to be more sympathetic with myself (if that’s the right word!) And I always try to learn from things I get wrong now, and don’t really get upset with myself anymore – which is defintiely an improvement!

2nd 2021 Goal – Working Out More

I’d say I sort of achieved this goal. Sometimes I go through phases of working out a lot, and sometimes I just stop. So, I have achieved this – but with a lack of consistency. However, I have been doing a lot more sports this year, so I kind of got this goal!

3rd 2021 Goal – Making More ‘Me’ Time

This is a goal I’d like to carry into next year. Honestly, this year I was putting way too much on my plate – and wasn’t making any time for myself. I might do the same next year, so I’m going to try and find a way to continue this goal!

4th 2021 Goal – Being More Grateful

Gratitude is definitely something I’m continuously working on, but I definitely think I’m getting better. These past months have really helped me improve my gratitude, even saying simple ‘thank you’ more often is improving gratitude!

5th 2021 Goal – Get To 500 Blog Followers

Although I haven’t gotten there yet, I’m super close to 500 – and I’m so grateful for more of you guys in the community. It’s not about numbers, it’s more about having more people to chat with in the blogosphere, so I’m definitely happy to have connected with more of you!


Thank you so much for reading this post, I’d love to know how you did on your 2021 goals. Let me know in the comments!

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See you in the new year!

A Day In My Life – Exam Revision, Blog Post Writing and More!

Hello everyone it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats! For today’s blog post, I’m going to be doing a day in my life as my day today is quite busy due to exams in upcoming weeks. Let’s jump into it!

8:30am – Eating Breakfast
I’m trying to make sure that I have a balanced diet during exams so that I can take them to the best of my ability – Coco Pops is my usual cereal!

9:00am – Writing Blog Posts
This is honestly such a therapeutic thing to do during exams, and it takes my mind off the stress. Today, I’m writing this post, but I’m not sure for the other so I’ll have to think about that!

10:30am – Revision
Obviously since I have exams tomorrow I have to revise – I usually do revision based on the subjects I have the next day! So, tomorrow I have Biology, Maths and Citizenship so I’m revising them!

2:00pm – Watching The Euros
After having a break, I decided to watch the Euros with my Dad, which is basically the World Cup but for European Teams. It’s England vs Croatia and England won!

5:30pm – Going Through Pinterest
I recently downloaded Pinterest again and I’ve actually enjoyed looking at some Pins. Especially the ones to do with studying as I have exams coming up! I also made some Pins (@zainabchats if you’d like to check them out!)

8:00pm – Watching Netflix
I tend to do this with my family most often, we are currently watching Modern Family and I love it!

9:45 – Bed
During exam season, it’s really important to have a good sleep schedule so I try to go to sleep at a suitable time!



Thank you so much for reading this blog post – do we have any similarities in our day? Let me know in the comments!

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My Interview On The Blogger Up Series

Hello everyone it’s Zainab here, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats! Today’s blog post is slightly different as I got the lovely opportunity to be interviewed by Nabeeha Jameel from the Brainstorms blog – so today I’ll be sharing my interview with you all! Be sure to check out the original post here and give Nabeeha a follow, now let’s jump into Nabeeha’s interview! from the Blogger Up Series! (Nabeeha’s questions are in bold!)

1. When did you start Zainab Chats, and what inspired you to?

I started Zainab Chats in April 2020. (I started at about the same time too, after being devastated and confused after my O-level Examinations got cancelled) I actually had a previous blog on Blogger called: Z.H Blogs but I really just wanted to rebrand – we were in the middle of lockdown and I couldn’t see us coming out any time soon so I decided to start Zainab Chats to spread positivity to others! (YAY🎊!)

2. I really like the whole aesthetic of your blog. What theme have you used?

Thank you so much! I use the free WordPress theme: Canape

3. Does your blog focus on a specific niche?

 I mainly focus on Positivity but I also do other niche-related posts such as Reviews, Study Tips and Lifestyle!

4. Throughout your blogging journey what is one thing that has been a constant challenge?

I’m very thankful my blogging journey hasn’t been much of a challenge. However, one thing that has been a challenge (not specifically about my own blog) but it’s been keeping up with other people’s blogs. Through school and other activities I find it quite difficult to consistently go through WordPress Reader and read other people’s lovely blogs. It’s not a challenge I’ve fully overcome but I’m getting there! (I can relate, but my constant struggle mostly revolves around being consistent with my posts and keeping up with life at the same time😬)

5. I noticed that Zainab Chats has an Instagram account. How has the Instagram account helped with your blogging journey? 

The Instagram account really helped me grow my blog in the beginning. Now, I tend to focus less on growth and use the account to interact more with my followers which is not something I can really do in the comments of blog posts.

6. What is your favourite post on Zainab Chats and Why?

That’s such a hard question, but I’d have to say my 100 Followers Special as it was such a big moment for me and I honestly never thought I’d get there. It was also a fun post as I got to react to people’s assumptions about me! (The satisfaction when you reach a 100 followers is indescribable! I cannot wait for your blog to reach 1K!)

7. Where do you see your blog three years from now? 

Three years from now, I hope to have grown by blog and to be posting a lot more than twice a week. I don’t like to predict too much as things can change but I hope I’m still blogging and have a lovely community

8. What is the favourite thing you own and why?

 I’d have to say my Bullet Journal – it really lets me plan my days so much more efficiently then a regular planner. I’ve actually almost finished it so I’ll be getting a new one soon!

9. Any secret talents that no one knows about?

Honestly, I don’t think so – I’m a pretty open book! (😂 Great!)

10. Imagine you met the Genie, what are the three things you would wish for?

I’d probably wish for: World Peace, A Happy Family and for Others to be happy too!


Be sure to check out Nabeeha’s blog, and other then that, thank you so much for reading! I hope you learned a bit more about me!

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4 Tips on Staying Positive During Lockdown – Guest Post

Hey everyone, it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats! Last week, I shared 5 Easy Ways To Spread Positivity – go check that out if you haven’t already! For this post, I invited Olivia from Olivia Lucie Blake to share some ways to keep positive yourself for the last couple of weeks of lockdown! Let’s jump into Olivia’s post!


The year of 2020 and 2021 have been the weirdest years of all of our lives. Nobody could have predicted that we would all be going through a global pandemic together and living such different l-ives than we are used to. It has been such a hard thing to go through, and it will be something we will have to keep overcoming as time goes on. One thing that has been hard is not allowing the current situation to have a negative impact on our mental health.

Now if you’re like me and already suffered from a mental illness prior to the pandemic. Then you’ll know the impact that this situation has had. Some days have been really tough and I have found it so hard to stay positive. 

As a little introduction to myself, my names Olivia and I run olivialucieblake.com. I’m a lifestyle blogger that covers many different topics such as mental health, self-care, body positivity and I also share blogging tips too. I have been blogging since 2015, but only recently came back to blogging full time and completely re-branded my blog. I was so happy when Zainab invited me to guest post on her site. I’m sharing these tips today in hopes that you feel less alone in what you’re feeling. So, let’s get started!

EXERCISE REGULARLY

I’m sure like everyone else, when the first lockdown happened around the world we were all doing as the leaders of our countries recommended. The advice here in the UK was to make sure you went for a walk every day, and for a while thats what I did. But I noticed as time went my energy levels started to lower and I really lost all motivation to get out. I really noticed how this impacted my mental health and I know it also affected my body too.

Now in the 3rd lockdown, I go for multiple walks a day and its helped so much in being more productive and having more energy. It also helps so much with my mental health too. Being stuck in the same 4 walls all day, every day means you can get cabin fever really quick. So be sure to get out if you can. 

BE KIND TO YOURSELF

Remember we are living in a pandemic. Theres constant bad news and bad things circulating on the news and social media. Be kind to yourself. You’re doing the best you can in these weird circumstances. Show yourself some self-care and self-love. Look after your body and your wellbeing. Take that bath, pamper yourself. Take time away from technology. That works wonders! 

You’ll be surprised at how doing those small things can have a positive impact on your wellbeing. 

TAKE EACH DAY AS THEY COME

Not every day will be the same. Some days I feel positive and happy and others I feel sad and upset. Each two days won’t be the same and I guess that’s the blessing of being a new day. We get the opportunity to wake up every day and start a fresh new day. If you have a bad day, then make the next day better. If you have a bad week, then make the next week better. 

Having anxiety means that I fear the future a lot. So, I’m always looking ahead and planning on what might happen (and then it rarely every does). Live in the present moment, and think about today only and what you can control. 

LOOK FOR THE SMALL POSITIVES IN EACH DAY

An exercise I often do on my blog is sharing some of the things I am thankful for from my weeks. It’s such a small thing to do but it has really helped me so much in changing my perspectives on life. The small things really matter during this pandemic because they’re really all we have. Your small blessings are there each day, you just need to be looking for them.

Make a list of 10 positives things that have happened in your week and use that as motivation and a positive thing in your life.

How have you managed to stay positive in the lockdown?

Thanks so much to Zainab for having me on her blog today. I hope you enjoyed this post and look forward to seeing you over on my blog!

Olivia x
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Thanks so much for reading, be sure to check out Olivia’s blog and socials linked above!

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Interview With Heidi From Absolute Heidi

Hey everyone it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats! Today, I’m going to interview Heidi who you may know as Absolute Heidi from YouTube! Let’s jump into the interview!


1) First of all, thank you Heidi for agreeing to be interviewed! Why don’t you share a bit about you and your content to anybody who isn’t familiar with you!

Hi! Thank you! My name is Heidi and I have the YouTube channel ‘AbsoluteHeidi’ where I create lifestyle videos!! I currently have 9000 subscribers which is so exciting!!! I’ve been doing Youtube for over 2 years🤍

Photo From Heidi’s Instagram (@absoluteheidiofficial)

2) Your videos are always super fun to watch; what do you think your favourite video on your channel is and why?

My favourite video on my channel would probably be my morning routines + vlogs as they are super fun to film + edit!!🤍

3) You have recently hit 9000 subscribers – which is incredible! What would be your biggest growth tip for growing your Youtube Channel and content creating platforms? Are there any do’s and don’ts people should know about?

I’d probably say consistently is key! It takes so much time to grow your channel! Having nice thumbnails that people would click on and videos that are easy to watch eg: not having noise in the background ect.. defo helps too!!💗

Photo From Heidi’s Instagram (@absoluteheidiofficial)

4) On your channel, you have also mentioned you will be doing your GCSEs this year! How do you overcome the difficult challenge of balancing content creating and youtube? Do you have any advice for other young creators trying to do the same thing? I sometimes struggle with a blog so what’s your perspective on this having a Youtube channel?

Even though my GCSEs have been cancelled 😦 I still feel that is was very hard to balance everything especially with my channel! As my channel grew i felt like when I was missing uploads I was letting people down 😦 so I felt very stressed with trying to get all my schoolwork and channel bits done! But now we are online is it a bit easier:)

5) Your video editing is also amazing, what softwares do you use to edit and what tips would you give to make editing Youtube videos easier for beginners?

I use iMovie! It’s definitely a good beginners app.. however I will be upgrading to Final Cut Pro soon!! I learnt editing by watching YouTube tutorials, so it all about practice:))

Video On Heidi’s YouTube (Absolute Heidi)

6) For the final question, what do you think your next milestone is on your Youtube and Instagram. You are growing so fast so where do you think you would want to be this time next year?

I would say my next milestone for YouTube would of course be the big 10k!! That has been my biggest dream since I started watching and making videos! So exceeding that would be insane!!! 🥺


Thank you so much to Heidi for participating in this interview!

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Before I go guys, I’ll be doing a blog post soon about BLM and how it still is important – I’d love it if you could comment your thoughts on blm and why it’s almost like a ‘trend!’

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Raising Awareness For Child Poverty

Hi everyone it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats!! Today, I’m going to start a new series called, ‘World Issues’ where I’m going to talk about things happening in the world! The topic for this post is child food poverty.

This will be a pretty basic post explaining it for anybody who doesn’t know about the issue, sharing links to where you can help and more! Let’s jump into it!

What Is Child Poverty?
Child Food Poverty is when a family can’t afford to provide food for their children which doesn’t allow them to have a healthy diet and eat their healthy meals. Unfortunately, it is growing more and becoming more and more common (especially with the pandemic).

If we take somewhere like the UK, it is estimated, that 1 in 3 children are living in poverty. That is 4.1 million! If this is just in the UK which is one of the richest countries in the world, think about the global number!

This is why influential people such as Marcus Rashford are campaigning for Free School Meals Vouchers for school holidays and during the school season as 1.3 million children are not eligible for free school meals and this needs to change!

What Can You Do?
There are many things you can do to help stop and potentially end child food poverty. The first thing you could do is send letters and emails to your government or world leaders asking them to do something about the issue!

The next thing you can do, and probably the simplest thing, is to sign petitions and links that can go to your government. If you share them with people on things such as social media or your own platform they can grow and spread awareness!

Another thing you can do it to make a donation! Obviously, not everyone can do this but if you can afford this it’s a huge help to families and children!

Links
Petition To End Child Food Poverty In The UK
End Child Food Poverty Website
Make A Donation For The Global Cause
Feeding Britain’s Children Documentary

So guys, I hope this post has given you a bit more information about Child Food Poverty and please share this post and the links so more people can help campaign for Free Schools Meals Vouchers! Please let me below what you want to try and do as we need all the help we can get!


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How To Feel Positive Around The Holiday Season

Hey guys it’s Zainab, welcome or welcome back to Zainab Chats! Happy Christmas Eve! As tomorrow is Christmas for today’s blog post I thought it would be a good idea to share some ways to be positive around the holiday season; especially this year due to everything that’s happened this year!

Keep In Touch With Family:
If you’re in a lockdown and are going to be alone this Christmas, you should make sure your spending the whole day talking to your family. Whether it’s on video call, phone call or anything else; just keep connected to be positive!

Have Your Own Celebration:
Another way to be positive around the holiday is to just make the celebration your own! Even if you’re alone, or don’t have all of your family with you; make it a big deal and have a big day!

Blocking Out The Negatives:
This year especially, there were a lot of negatives so to be positive around a happy holiday season; you’re going to have to block out the negatives. You can do this by switching off your phone and the news because the news has a lot of negatives!

Thanks so much for reading guys, let me know how you’re staying positive in the holiday season in the comments!

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